Julia Morgan's original drawings for our Clubhouse, Courtesy of Cal Poly Archives

President Jennifer Alderman - Monthly Message

  • August 26, 2015 1:29 PM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    I hope this will be “our year” to learn more about our fellow Club members.  We are spending an increasing amount of time working together on our common goal; preserving our beloved, historic Club building.  So, it is important that we try to get to know each other better.

    Cooperation is key in any type of endeavor.  If we don’t work together, things simply won’t get done.  Most of us know that we should and could communicate better.  Not surprisingly, we usually stop to think about this following some sort of conflict that we dissect only to realize that if our communication had been better the conflict could have been averted.  A disagreement is the last thing any of us want or need!

    So, we should work on what we say and how we say it.  This is a great first step, but there’s more involved which is equally important.  The other half of better communication is listening. 

    There is a lot of information about becoming a better listener.  When we listen for our own purposes, we forfeit the opportunity to understand the other person.  When someone else is speaking, let them speak.  Inquire, ask, seek and listen.  By truly listening, we can build better, stronger, long-lasting relationships because we have a better understanding of those around us.

    What else can we do?  

    • Learn the art of small talk.  Start with a simple hello and ask about their weekend (or the weather…Ha!)
    • Take time to learn about the other member’s life and interests: family, hobbies, favorite vacation spot?  You may be surprised to find you share many things in common.
    • Avoid gossip and negativity.  It’s easy to get caught up.  Try your best to dissociate yourself from what can easily turn into a toxic situation.
    • Above all, try to maintain an atmosphere of politeness, respect, and geniality.  Play your part towards creating a great environment, with a strong team ethos.  Engage in conversation and listen to the suggestions and thoughts of others.

    I look forward to our 2015 – 2016 Club Year and getting to know each one of you better!

  • May 13, 2015 5:08 PM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    I have been thinking about this a lot lately.  It seems that our Club, as well as our beloved Clubhouse, have taken on a life of their own.  I am so proud to call myself a member of The Monday Club.  We have gone from being a Club to being a family.  The relationships created here will last a lifetime.  Every one of us is unique.  Yet we have come together to respect each other and those ‘differences’ that make each of us unique.

    I have learned so much from every one of you.  It is truly my desire to have our club family continue to grow.  As we do I pray that we will remain close and always support and ‘push’ each other to become better people.

    As we press forward into the future I will be excited to see our growth while we honor the past, celebrate the present, and embrace our future.  We have important work to do on behalf of our Club’s founders and Miss Julia Morgan.  We are proud of their achievements.  I think they would take pride in ours, too!

    I am happy to announce to all of you that our application for National Registry of Historic Places has been submitted this past week.  Now we wait for the good news to follow!  I am confident that our historic gem will soon take its place on that National Registry.

    In addition, the Articles of Incorporation for the 501(c)3 have been written, approved by the Board of Directors, and will be filed with the Secretary of State on, or after June 1, 2015.  We should receive the document, forming the new nonprofit corporation, sometime in June.  Thereafter, we will be working on submitting the appropriate documents to the IRS for tax-exempt status.  I will certainly keep you all informed with the progress.  Thank you for your continued faith and support!

  • April 10, 2015 11:40 AM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    Just before our last General Membership meeting was about to begin, and we were greeting each other with hugs, smiles on our faces, and exuding happiness, I was overwhelmed by the goodness within the Clubhouse. It reminded me of what friendships mean to us and what strength, support and peace we can receive from one another.  Then, I read something by author C. JoyBell C. and I'd like to share it because I believe we can ~ and we are ~ making a difference one hug at a time.

    "I believe in women uplifting women.  The only thing that makes our gender weaker is the fact that we are the gender less likely to stand up for one another.  We are the gender more likely to try and make another look bad, and when one of us is already bad, instead of being kind we pound them into the ditches.  And that's what makes us weak, nothing else.  If we can change this, we can change the whole structure of being female; I truly believe this.  I'd like to see us stop hurting one another and actually making a conscious effort to be happy for another when she is happy, to hope the best for another when she has better, and to lift another up when she is down.  We know that many of us can be harsh, cold and selfish, and we try to protect ourselves from one another, that's the reality.  But, it's also a reality that 'what is real can change'.  So, that means WE CAN CHANGE IT."

    I have seen positive changes at work within our Club.  We are supporting one another, working respectfully to achieve desired goals, laughing and having fun together and genuinely caring about each other. It is my desire to continue with these behaviors to set an example for all women. This is a great social contribution and something of which our 'founding sisters' would be proud.

  • March 12, 2015 12:39 PM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    Differences of opinion happen all the time.  All people have opinions on a variety of topics.  Since opinions don't necessarily have to be based upon logic - they can be based upon emotion, preference, experience, or all sorts of variables - people will often have differences of opinion and it doesn't necessarily mean one person is right and the other person is wrong.  It's just a matter of preference.

    Arguments are no fun.  It's always better to agree than to disagree.  But guess what?  Everyone won't always agree on everything...and that's OK!  In these situations, it's better to recognize and respect the other person's opinion without arguing, fighting or causing hurt feelings.  Agreeing to disagree does not mean you have to give up your opinion.  To the contrary, you simply recognize others' right to hold a different opinion and agree not to argue about it.

    When you agree to disagree, you promote peaceful relationships.  Disagreements happen, but you need not let them become a problem.  Instead, show others respect by allowing them to hold a different opinion than yours.  Each person has a unique view of the world, and they don't always match.  It's important to learn how to respectfully discuss differences of opinion.  Agree to disagree and you'll find that your friends can remain as such even if they don't think exactly like you do.

  • February 13, 2015 11:03 AM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    Here it is...already February and even this month is half gone! 

    How did that happen?

    How are your New Year's resolutions holding up? 

    I hope you're doing better than I.

    Instead of the annual ritual of making resolutions I was recently introduced to the concept of choosing one word each year to incorporate into your daily practices, decisions, goal setting and more.  As I understand about 92% of us fail at those yearly resolutions.  So, with that understanding I thought this could be an interesting and exciting concept.  Each of us can select one word, such as LOVE...or CALM...RESPECTFUL...EXCELLENCE.  And then make that word a conscious

    thought as you go through each day.

    It seems to be great "food for thought" and an intriguing way to make a positive life change, one word at a time.  I'm going to give it a try and I'll keep you posted!

  • January 16, 2015 11:02 AM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)


    It's never too late to start over.

    If you weren't happy with yesterday, try something different today.

    Don't stay stuck.

    Do better. 

  • December 18, 2014 2:26 PM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    "I have always thought of Christmas time, when it has come round, as a good time; a kind, forgiving, charitable time; the only time I know of, in the long calendar of the year, when men and women seem by one consent to open their shut-up hearts freely, and to think of people below them as if they really were fellow passengers to the grave, and not another race of creatures bound on other journeys."

    ~ Charles Dickens ~

  • November 16, 2014 4:20 PM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    "Obviously, you would give your life for your children, or give them the last biscuit on the plate.  But to me, the trick in life is to take that sense of generosity between kin, make it apply to the extended family and to your neighbor, your village and beyond."

    Sir Tom Stoppard

  • October 21, 2014 11:15 AM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    Don't bother getting a pen and paper...just read...if you can't answer one, go on to the next.

    1. Name the 5 wealthiest people in the world.

    2. Name the last 5 Heisman trophy winners.

    3. Name the last 5 winners of the Miss America contest.

    4. Name 5 people who have won the Nobel Peace prize.

    5. Name the last 5 Academy Award winners for Best Actor and Best Actress. 

    How did you do? The point is, none  of us remembers the headliners of yesterday.  These are no second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields.  But, the applause dies quickly.  Awards tarnish.Achievements are soon forgotten.  Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners. 

    Now, take the second half of the quiz.  See how you do…

    1. Name 3 teachers who aided your journey through school.

    2. Name 3 friends who helped you through a difficult time.

    3. Name 3 people who have taught you something worthwhile.

    4. Name a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.

    5. Think of the people you enjoy spending time with. 

    Was that easier? What is the lesson? 

    The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, the most money, or the most awards. 

    They are the ones that care. 

    At our next Luncheon, take a look at who is sitting next to you, or across from you. 

    They are the ones that care. 

    Remember, we have joined a group of ladies and we are here to care for one another through life's journey.We are daughters, sisters, wives, mothers, grandmothers.

    We share a special thread, a special bond.

    We are here for one another.

    We are all special!

  • September 17, 2014 10:55 AM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    It was fantastic to see so many of our members at the September Luncheon. I hope everyone enjoyed our speaker, Victoria Kastner, who is an encyclopedia of knowledge concerning all things Julia Morgan and Hearst Castle. It was delightful and inspirational for me. 

    Now, as I seek to inspire the rest of you, I am at a loss for words. That is a first, believe me! However, I recently came across some words of wisdom, from our past President Martha Schwartz, that I thought I might pass on to you. 

    “One of life’s lessons I have learned is that participation is the key to the success of any organization. Our Monday Club has a long history of member participation. I want to perpetuate and enhance that tradition. There will be opportunities for every member to participate at some level in the activities of our Club; there are large scale jobs and there are small scale jobs, but all jobs are Big Jobs that are important in making our Club function.  So, please let me hear each and every one of you will step forth and lend a hand.”

    “Our Club goal – ‘to promote civic, social and cultural welfare’ is both serious and worthwhile, but there is no reason why we shouldn’t have a lot of fun while fulfilling that goal – I know I intend to.”

    Martha’s words of encouragement are as alive today as they were when she penned them. I look to each member to lend a helping hand, wear a big smile, and have a lot of fun this year!

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