Julia Morgan's original drawings for our Clubhouse, Courtesy of Cal Poly Archives

President Jennifer Alderman - Monthly Message

  • December 17, 2015 11:45 AM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    Here it is.  The answer to the question of what on Earth does “Auld Lang Syne” actually mean?

    The confusion over the song is almost as much of a tradition as the song itself. The title of the Scottish tune translates to “times gone by” and is about remembering friends from the past and not letting them be forgotten.

    Despite the strong association with New Year’s Eve, it was never the intent of the writer Robert Burns, in 1700, for it to be a holiday song.  Guy Lombardo is responsible for bringing the song into the popular mainstream in 1929.  His band used it as a bridge between two live radio programs at the Roosevelt Hotel in New York.  It was just a coincidence that they played Auld Lang Syne just after the clock struck midnight and a New Year’s tradition was born!

    A schoolyard interpretation instructs us similarly to, “Make new friends, but keep the old.  One is silver and the other is gold.” So as we approach another new year remember the wealth that we all have in each other. We continue to make new friends and new memories, but never forget the value of a dear, old friendships.

    Wishing you peace, joy, good fortune, and good health.

    Happy New Year, my friends!

  • November 24, 2015 10:01 AM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    As we approach Thanksgiving, we are starting a five-week period called “the holidays”.  We’re supposed to look forward to the holidays and hope that they will be a time of happiness, friendliness and harmony. However, often times our anticipation and excitement turns into feelings of depression, commonly called holiday blues. Symptoms can include headaches, insomnia, uneasiness, anxiety, sadness, intestinal problems, and unnecessary conflict with family and friends.

    Part of what happens, in terms of mood and anxiety, may occur because of the stressfulness of the season.  Overeating, overdrinking, and fatigue may also play a role.  The demands of the season are many: shopping, cooking, travel, houseguests, family reunions, parties, more shopping and financial burden.

    Here are some tools to help get through the holiday season happily, as well as ways to prevent problems and misery for yourself and your loved ones.

    1. Be reasonable with your schedule.  Don’t overbook yourself into a state of exhaustion.
    2. Decide upon your priorities and stick to them.  Organize your time.
    3. Remember that no matter what our plans, the holidays do not automatically take away feelings of sadness, frustration, anger and fear.
    4. Be careful about resentments related to holidays past.  Declare amnesty with a friend or family member you are holding a grudge for.  Do not feel it is helpful to tell that person every resentment on your laundry list of grievances. Don’t let that person do that to you, either.
    5. Don’t expect the holidays to be as they were when you were a child.  They NEVER are. You are not the same person you were as a child and no one else in the family is either.
    6. Feeling at loose ends?  Like you are under-scheduled or under-planned for the Holidays?  Volunteer to serve holiday dinner at a homeless shelter.  Work with a number of groups that help underprivileged or hospitalized children at the holidays. There are many opportunities for doing community service.  No one can be depressed when they are giving of themselves.
    7. Plan unstructured, low-cost fun holiday activities; window-shop and look at decorations.  Look at people’s Christmas lights on their homes.
    8. If you enjoy a cocktail, don’t let the holidays become a reason for over-indulging.  This will exacerbate feelings of anxiety and depression.
    9. Give yourself a break; create time for yourself to do the things YOU love and need to do for your physical and mental wellness.  Exercise, yoga, massage, spiritual practices, taking long fast walks of any activity that calms you down and gives you a better perspective on what is important in your life.
    10. Most of all, if you find yourself feeling blue remember:  The choice is always yours. The sky is partly sunny, and the glass is half full and revel in our gratitude for our bounty, health, hope, and our courage to face each day with that hope and determination.
  • October 15, 2015 11:32 AM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    Do you realize that the only time in our lives when we like to get old is when we are kids?  If you are less than 10 years old, you’re so excited about aging that you think in fractions.  “How old are you?”  “I’m 4 and a half!”  You are 4 and a half, GOING on 5.  That’s the key!

    You GET into your teens and now they can’t hold you back.  You jump to the next number, or even a few ahead.  “How old are you?”  “I’m gonna be 16!” You could be 13, but you’re gonna be 16.  And then, the greatest day of your life…you BECOME 21.  Even the words sound like a ceremony.  


    But then, you TURN 30.  Oooohhh, what happened there?  Makes you sound like bad milk!  He TURNED; we had to throw him out.  There’s no fun now, you’re just a sour-dumpling.  What’s wrong?  What’s changed?

    You BECOME 21, you TURN 30, then you’re PUSHING 40…Whoa! Put on the breaks, it’s all slipping away!  Before you know it, you REACHED 50 And you believe your dreams are gone.  

    But wait!!!  You MAKE IT to 60.  You didn’t think you would! 

    So, you BECOME 21, 

    TURN 30, 

    PUSH 40,

    REACH 50 

    And MAKE IT to 60.

    You’ve built up so much speed that you HIT 70!  After that it’s a day-by-day thing; you HIT Saturday, October 17, 2015!

    You GET into your 80’s and everyday is a complete cycle; you HIT lunch; you TURN 4:30; you REACH bedtime.  And it doesn’t end there.  Onto the 90’s you start going backwards; “I was just 92!”

    Then, a strange thing happens.  If you make it over 100, you become a little kid again!  “I’m 100 and a half!”  May you all make it to a healthy 100 and a half!

    How to stay young:

    1. Throw away the nonessential numbers.  This includes age, weight, height Let the doctors worry about them.  That’s what you pay ‘them’ for.
    2. Keep only cheerful friends.  The grouches bring you down.
    3. Keep Learning.  Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever…Never let the brain become idle,  ‘An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.’  And the devil’s name is Dementia.
    4. Enjoy the simple things.
    5. Laugh often, long and loud.  Laugh until you gasp for a breath.
    6. The tears happen.  Endure, grieve, and then move on.  The only person who will be with us our entire lives is ourselves.  Be ALIVE while you are living.
    7. Surround yourself with what you love, whether it is family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever.  Your home is your refuge.
    8. Cherish your health.  If it is good, preserve it.  If it is unstable, improve it.  If it’s beyond what you can improve, get help.
    9. Don’t take GUILT TRIPS.  Take a trip to the mall, even to the next County; go to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is.
    10. Tell the people that you love them, at every opportunity.

    AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

    Very Special Thanks to George Carlin

  • September 22, 2015 11:09 AM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    A Collect for Clubwomen

         by Mary Stewart

            April 1904

    Keep us, O God, from pettiness;

    Let us be large in thought, in word, in deed.

    Let us be done with fault-finding

    And leave off self-seeking.

    May we put away all pretense

    And meet each other face-to-face,

    Without self-pity and without prejudice.

    May we never be hasty in judgement

    And always be generous.

    Let us take time for all things;

    Make us to grow calm, serene, gentle.

    Teach us to put into action our better impulses,

    Straightforward and unafraid.

    Grant that we may realize

    It is the little things that create differences,

    That in the big things of life we are one.

    And may we strive to touch and to know

    The great common human heart of us all.

    And, O Lord God, let us forget not to be kind.

    Courtesy of Estero Women’s Club, Morro Bay

  • August 26, 2015 1:29 PM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    I hope this will be “our year” to learn more about our fellow Club members.  We are spending an increasing amount of time working together on our common goal; preserving our beloved, historic Club building.  So, it is important that we try to get to know each other better.

    Cooperation is key in any type of endeavor.  If we don’t work together, things simply won’t get done.  Most of us know that we should and could communicate better.  Not surprisingly, we usually stop to think about this following some sort of conflict that we dissect only to realize that if our communication had been better the conflict could have been averted.  A disagreement is the last thing any of us want or need!

    So, we should work on what we say and how we say it.  This is a great first step, but there’s more involved which is equally important.  The other half of better communication is listening. 

    There is a lot of information about becoming a better listener.  When we listen for our own purposes, we forfeit the opportunity to understand the other person.  When someone else is speaking, let them speak.  Inquire, ask, seek and listen.  By truly listening, we can build better, stronger, long-lasting relationships because we have a better understanding of those around us.

    What else can we do?  

    • Learn the art of small talk.  Start with a simple hello and ask about their weekend (or the weather…Ha!)
    • Take time to learn about the other member’s life and interests: family, hobbies, favorite vacation spot?  You may be surprised to find you share many things in common.
    • Avoid gossip and negativity.  It’s easy to get caught up.  Try your best to dissociate yourself from what can easily turn into a toxic situation.
    • Above all, try to maintain an atmosphere of politeness, respect, and geniality.  Play your part towards creating a great environment, with a strong team ethos.  Engage in conversation and listen to the suggestions and thoughts of others.

    I look forward to our 2015 – 2016 Club Year and getting to know each one of you better!

  • May 13, 2015 5:08 PM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    I have been thinking about this a lot lately.  It seems that our Club, as well as our beloved Clubhouse, have taken on a life of their own.  I am so proud to call myself a member of The Monday Club.  We have gone from being a Club to being a family.  The relationships created here will last a lifetime.  Every one of us is unique.  Yet we have come together to respect each other and those ‘differences’ that make each of us unique.

    I have learned so much from every one of you.  It is truly my desire to have our club family continue to grow.  As we do I pray that we will remain close and always support and ‘push’ each other to become better people.

    As we press forward into the future I will be excited to see our growth while we honor the past, celebrate the present, and embrace our future.  We have important work to do on behalf of our Club’s founders and Miss Julia Morgan.  We are proud of their achievements.  I think they would take pride in ours, too!

    I am happy to announce to all of you that our application for National Registry of Historic Places has been submitted this past week.  Now we wait for the good news to follow!  I am confident that our historic gem will soon take its place on that National Registry.

    In addition, the Articles of Incorporation for the 501(c)3 have been written, approved by the Board of Directors, and will be filed with the Secretary of State on, or after June 1, 2015.  We should receive the document, forming the new nonprofit corporation, sometime in June.  Thereafter, we will be working on submitting the appropriate documents to the IRS for tax-exempt status.  I will certainly keep you all informed with the progress.  Thank you for your continued faith and support!

  • April 10, 2015 11:40 AM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    Just before our last General Membership meeting was about to begin, and we were greeting each other with hugs, smiles on our faces, and exuding happiness, I was overwhelmed by the goodness within the Clubhouse. It reminded me of what friendships mean to us and what strength, support and peace we can receive from one another.  Then, I read something by author C. JoyBell C. and I'd like to share it because I believe we can ~ and we are ~ making a difference one hug at a time.

    "I believe in women uplifting women.  The only thing that makes our gender weaker is the fact that we are the gender less likely to stand up for one another.  We are the gender more likely to try and make another look bad, and when one of us is already bad, instead of being kind we pound them into the ditches.  And that's what makes us weak, nothing else.  If we can change this, we can change the whole structure of being female; I truly believe this.  I'd like to see us stop hurting one another and actually making a conscious effort to be happy for another when she is happy, to hope the best for another when she has better, and to lift another up when she is down.  We know that many of us can be harsh, cold and selfish, and we try to protect ourselves from one another, that's the reality.  But, it's also a reality that 'what is real can change'.  So, that means WE CAN CHANGE IT."

    I have seen positive changes at work within our Club.  We are supporting one another, working respectfully to achieve desired goals, laughing and having fun together and genuinely caring about each other. It is my desire to continue with these behaviors to set an example for all women. This is a great social contribution and something of which our 'founding sisters' would be proud.

  • March 12, 2015 12:39 PM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    Differences of opinion happen all the time.  All people have opinions on a variety of topics.  Since opinions don't necessarily have to be based upon logic - they can be based upon emotion, preference, experience, or all sorts of variables - people will often have differences of opinion and it doesn't necessarily mean one person is right and the other person is wrong.  It's just a matter of preference.

    Arguments are no fun.  It's always better to agree than to disagree.  But guess what?  Everyone won't always agree on everything...and that's OK!  In these situations, it's better to recognize and respect the other person's opinion without arguing, fighting or causing hurt feelings.  Agreeing to disagree does not mean you have to give up your opinion.  To the contrary, you simply recognize others' right to hold a different opinion and agree not to argue about it.

    When you agree to disagree, you promote peaceful relationships.  Disagreements happen, but you need not let them become a problem.  Instead, show others respect by allowing them to hold a different opinion than yours.  Each person has a unique view of the world, and they don't always match.  It's important to learn how to respectfully discuss differences of opinion.  Agree to disagree and you'll find that your friends can remain as such even if they don't think exactly like you do.

  • February 13, 2015 11:03 AM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)

    Here it is...already February and even this month is half gone! 

    How did that happen?

    How are your New Year's resolutions holding up? 

    I hope you're doing better than I.

    Instead of the annual ritual of making resolutions I was recently introduced to the concept of choosing one word each year to incorporate into your daily practices, decisions, goal setting and more.  As I understand about 92% of us fail at those yearly resolutions.  So, with that understanding I thought this could be an interesting and exciting concept.  Each of us can select one word, such as LOVE...or CALM...RESPECTFUL...EXCELLENCE.  And then make that word a conscious

    thought as you go through each day.

    It seems to be great "food for thought" and an intriguing way to make a positive life change, one word at a time.  I'm going to give it a try and I'll keep you posted!

  • January 16, 2015 11:02 AM | Linda Wilson (Administrator)


    It's never too late to start over.

    If you weren't happy with yesterday, try something different today.

    Don't stay stuck.

    Do better. 

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